Archive for January, 2011
My belly is growing like crazy this week. On Monday Darius met me for lunch and I swear the belly grew between leaving the office and returning from lunch (and it wasn’t just eating a lot of food). I’m really looking pregnanty now. Yay! I’ve figured out why pregnant women rest their hands on their bellies. It’s because we can’t put our hands on our hips anymore because our hips have disappeared.
Also on Monday morning, Stree was being active before we got out of bed, so I had Darius put his hand on my tummy and he actually felt something. He said he felt a very faint movement, like a gas bubble, which is pretty much what it feels like from the inside too. I’m sure he’ll be feeling (and seeing) stronger movement before too long.
In Athene is pregnant and gets to complain news, have been to the chiropractor 3 times and back is feeling slowly better (most of the time). Of course the chiropractor is expensive, even with insurance, so boo. Also the dumb Flex Spend peoples want and EOB for the Birthing Center because it could be covered by insurance. Hello, I sent you the contract with the payment stuff. It says that I have to pay X amount over Y visits after insurance. Must call them Friday because am teaching all day tomorrow.
Body wise, my back hurts on and off (see above paragraph). Yoga was canceled yesterday cause instructor was sick. I’m having pains in the front part of my pelvis which my chiro said was round ligament pain, but I’ve been reading about those sorts of pains on the internet and now I’m nervous I have something worse, so I’ll call the Birthing Center on Friday and see what they say. Basically it hurts right under my belly if I move to fast or get up to fast or pull one leg up to put on pants, etc. And to make things more fun, last night at 1am my left leg got a muscle cramp (normal for pregnancy) and at first it wouldn’t release. It finally released somewhat, but it still hasn’t totally released. And I taught all day today. Which meant standing and walking around.
I finished Ina May’s Guide to Childbirth this weekend. I really enjoyed about two-thirds of the book. The positive stories of natural childbirth were great to read and I must admit, I teared up more than once. The first part of the second section was great also. The whole chapter called “Sphincter’s Law” was rather fantastic and eye-opening. However, the end was so anti-established medical practice, that it made me more scared/nervous about what happens with a hospital birth than I already was.
There are some great lines and passages that I want to remember, but since I got the book out of the library, highlighting/marking the book really isn’t appropriate (and I don’t feel like I need a copy of this book), I’ll record them here along with their page numbers.
Birth is a normal physiological process. – 131
our bodies must work pretty well, or there wouldn’t be so many humans on the planet. – 131
There is no other organ quite like the uterus. If men has such an organ, they would brag about it. So should we. – 144
One of the best features of labor is the rest periods that occur between these rushes [contractions]. Hardly anyone seems to talk about these in birth preparation books, but they are one of the most brilliant features of labor. Savor every second of them. – 146
We need to always remember that mothers who are afraid tend to secrete the hormones that delay or inhibit birth. This is true of all mammals and is part of nature’s design. Those who are not terrified are more likely to secrete in abundance the hormones that make labor and birth easier and less painful—sometimes even pleasurable. – 149
the woman’s body knows best and that, given enough time, nature knows best and that, given enough time, nature will take its course – 152
Women who have out-of-hospital births are also more likely than are women in U.S. hospitals to have the continuous help of someone they trust, another factor that has been shown to reduce the perception of labor pain. – 152
The woman gains a new appreciation of the wisdom of nature as expressed through her body. When she starts to understand that being amused and grateful actually moves the process of labor along more efficiently, she starts to work toward these feelings herself. Hard work may continue, but now she has the heart for it. Instead of fearing her body, she experiments with trusting it – 153 (emphasis mine)
Because trust is such a valuable and powerful feeling, it is important for pregnant women to be cared for by people whom they trust. Love is another very powerful healing and easing emotion. Trust and love make relaxation possible. – 180
When a mother loves and trusts her midwife or physician, she is going to find it far easier to relax her bottom in the presence of this person. This feeling of safety will not only make labor and birth more efficient, it can also make it significantly less painful. – 180-181
It is amazing how much better our bottoms work when we think of them with humor and affection rather than with terror, revulsion, or, worst of all, look awake from them in shame. Lord knows, we can’t turn our backs on our bottoms. – 182
labor often starts and stops a time or two before it becomes powerful enough to complete the birth process. … Four or five false starts are not unusual. – 205
Contracting the arm muscles during labor distracts women’s attention from holding their pelvic and thigh muscles tight to “protect” themselves during labor. – 207
some women must be upright or on all fours to have a baby. Women often make this choice spontaneously. – 231
In fact, sex is the central fact of reproductive behavior from conception to birth. If the sexual aspect of labor and birth is ignored, it will often work against progress in labor. Of course, the converse is also true. – 239
We share this need for privacy during labor with virtually all other female mammals. – 241
Your body is not a lemon! – 315
In the past two weeks I’ve started feeling Stree kick. At first I wasn’t sure that that was what I was feeling. It felt like a little gas bubble popping, so I wasn’t sure if it was just gas, the ability to feel my pulse in stomach (which I can do sometimes), or kicks. But they have been happening more and more frequently, especially in the last week, so now I know they are kicks/punches/movement.
Sometimes he is really active and I feel a bunch all at once, or within a few minutes of each other. Sometimes I just feel an odd one or two. Sometimes I just feel heavy in my pelvis, as if he’s just settling down in there for a while. They still come to infrequently and are too light for me to determine any perceptible pattern. And nothing can be felt or seen on the outside yet, but I can’t wait for the day when Darius can feel his son move.
In belly news, none of my pre-pregnancy pants (other than yoga pants and leggings) fit anymore at all. I’ve been pretty much living in maternity pants/jeans, yoga pants, and Darius’s pajama bottoms. While I don’t look “to strangers” pregnant, I feel as though I’m finally moving out of the “ate too many cheeseburgers/pizzas” stage to the really looking pregnant stage (except for when wearing a large sweater…but it’s been so cold out lately).
In symptom news, still burping all the time but the hemorrhoids have seem to have cleared up mostly (for now). Also I’ve been getting tired a lot lately again and my back has started hurting on and off. Scoliosis + pregnancy = back pains earlier in pregnancy than for most people. Doing yoga can help somewhat. I have an appointment with a chiropractor on Monday! I am so looking forward to it.
My sister is in town this weekend, loving the pregnant me. We went out yesterday to look at baby things. She bought Stree a couple of cute onesies from Once Upon A Child, which is really really close by. Then we went to Babies R Us to pick up my Dad’s present to Stree. We have a Travel System (stroller/car seat/travel bassinet) now! This is really the only thing that we actually need need need when Stree is born, so yay! After that, my sister and I went a little crazy with the registry gun at Babies R Us, but it was kind of fun. There are a lot of cute things with monkeys on them out there if you want to go all ape over that kind of thing. We also checked out BabyEarth, since it just opened, but it was totally over my price range for just about everything.
Today we went out with my BF in Austin and hit up some thrift stores and Target to look for cute maternity clothing for me. Amongst some of the horrible and very questionable things, we actually found some stuff that was rather cute. It was really fun hanging out with the two of them in general.
I’ve been reading Ina May’s Guide to Childbirth, which is even more hippy than Birthing from Within, but it is really nice to read positive stories about natural birth. She has some great points that I’ve been copying down since I’m just borrowing the book from the library, but that deserves its own post.
Last night while Darius and I were getting ready for bed, I was mostly naked in front of the mirror and started twisting back and forth going, “Shake the baby, shake shake the baby.” When Darius looked at me I said I was preparing him for roller coasters. Darius then said something about the look on my face, which was apparently scarily gleeful.
Tonight we had a friend over and when hanging out downstairs I showed her my shake the baby thing. Darius said that that’s not how you prepare a baby for a roller coaster. He proceeded to scoop me up in his arms and dip and spin me all over the living room/dining room area. We were both laughing. Eventually I said that I don’t think the baby likes roller coasters very much right now and so he put me down.
Yet another reason why I love this man.