Archive for December, 2010
On Wednesday Darius and I went in for Stree’s anatomy ultrasound. We decided to find out the sex and Stree cooperated beautifully.
I knew it. I just had a feeling that this was a boy from very early on. From sometime close to when I found out I was pregnant. It was interesting, when the u/s tech confirmed it, I wasn’t even surprised because I just knew.
The rest of the anatomy scan went really well. Stree is developing well. He (ha! I can say he now) looks to be healthy, his face is well formed, his spine is spine like, his heart has four chambers, and all the measurements were good.
I think that Darius and I may have weirded out the u/s tech a bit. We said things like, “Is that the brain? Oh good, then it’s not a zombie.” and talked about how we were sad that he didn’t appear to be an alien or have horns or anything. Well, he did look a little like an alien (or part of a pirate flag) when we saw his face.
I was all excited during the ultrasound. OMG he has hands. OMG he has feet. OMG he has a spine. I was also starting to really absorb the fact that it was a boy. Started thinking about what that meant and stuff, for example when looking at the spine I realized that males are less prone to scoliosis than females (runs in the female side of my family). He was moving around and so active. We got to hear the heart beat again. Every time it’s so amazing. See the Pictures page for many more pictures from Stree’s ultrasounds.
Darius was there next to the table the whole time and holding my hand for most of it. This was his first u/s; the first time he actually got to see Stree moving around (instead of just seeing pictures). He was pretty quiet at first (ok, he was also tired from a long day at work and the room was dark). Then when I started teasing with the u/s tech, he jumped in on that.
Still not sure what Darius thinks of all this. But he did say that it’s become more real for him now. While we were waiting at the airport to head to my father’s for the holidays, he went and bought a parenting magazine all on his own :).
As for me, I’m blown away by the fact that I’m going to have a son. At first on the u/s table I was a little worried because I have no idea what to do with a boy child. But now I’m really excited by it. A son. I’m going to have a son. Every time I think about it I just can’t stop smiling. I’m so excited about my son. It’s amazing. I know I’m repeating myself, but I’m just so overwhelmed with emotion and love for my son!!!
As for names, we have a few that we’ve thrown around and some that we really like. However, I’m sure more discussions will be happening in the next few months. We’ve decided that we’ll pick a top choice with a couple of runner ups just in case the name we pick doesn’t fit once we meet our child for the first time.
Got my first belly band in the mail yesterday. Still figuring out exactly how to position it properly to keep my jeans up, but I am a total convert. I may even get a few more as they come in a variety of colors and if I take after my mother, it may be a another month or two before I really “pop.”
The other day I caught myself swaying back and forth in the shower under the hot water singing “Baby Mine” from Dumbo while holding my belly. Now I can’t get the song out of my head (and I kind of don’t want to).
When driving in the car and a song from a band I like comes on the radio, I announce who the band is so that Stree will have a good musical education.
In TMI news, I think my pregnancy related hemorrhoids are getting worse. Nothing really that I can do about that. ~sigh~ I guess it’s my trade-off for not having morning sickness.
Woke up this morning with my left shoulder aching and my arm asleep. Must have slept on it funny. Not much fun as it made morning cuddling with still-sleepy Darius not able to happen.
We have the anatomy ultrasound this afternoon, about which I am randomly freaking out in stupid and silly ways. Then home to clean house and pack to head out to San Diego to visit Dad and Stepmom for the holidays.
I’ve always had a bit of a belly. Even when I was in high school and so super skinny that you could see my ribs, I had a belly that stuck out. And unlike many bellies mine is like my father’s and his mother’s, it starts pretty much right below the sternum and continues down into the normal belly area. I’ve never had a flat tummy (well, maybe when I suck it in).
Now that I’m pregnant and gaining baby weight, it’s not just my lower stomach that sicks out more, but the whole thing. To you it might look like I’m really starting to show, but to me it just looks like my belly is getting bigger all over. Especially because I can make most of it (especially the top part) go away by sucking it in (which I’m not generally doing in the belly pictures to make sure that I look pregnant). It’s also squishy, as I’ve always had a bit of padding there. I know my uterus is moving and growing because I can feel it when I’m lying down. I’m almost half way there. I just wish I “looked” more pregnant.
This post brought to you by insecurities and by Felicia Day saying, “Wow, you don’t even look pregnant” when I told her I was.
Let me tell y’all something about Darius: it can take him a while to adjust to major change. After he proposed, it took 3 months before he was ready to talk about planning the wedding (even though he’d been planning to propose for over 5 months). Once we got into the wedding planning he was (mostly) enthusiastic about it. Moving to Texas for Grad School was a little easier because it was over half a year from when I applied to the schools to when we made the move. So even though we were actively trying to conceive for about nine months before it happened, there’s a big difference between talking about it in the hypothetical and having it actually happen; especially since it’s something that in general we have very little control over.
As I think happens with many men, it’s often hard to get a read on how Darius feels about this whole pregnancy thing. But I think he’s slowly coming around. Yesterday when we were hanging out with a friend, he told a story about how he used to get his nephew to eat. At first he said that based on the story, he didn’t think he’d make a very good parent (or maybe it was just that I’ll be a better parent). But then after thinking about the story, he changed his mind and said that maybe he would make a good parent after all. Last night, well really early this morning, I was awakened by his arm coming over my body and landing gently on my belly where he kept it for a little while. It was really sweet. Of course this morning he barely remembers do that :).
At the beginning of November, I took out two books on Pregnancy/Birth from the library.
The first book was The Girlfriend’s Guide to Pregnancy by Vicki Iovine. She is very honest and upfront about this not being a medical book, but a book about all the stuff the doctors won’t tell you or that you might be nervous to bring up to them (so true!). I really enjoyed Iovine’s straight-forward style. It made it feel like she really was a Girlfriend just telling me about what was going on. I laughed a lot while reading this book, not only at the stories she told, but also at her humorous language. Although I sometimes disagreed with what Iovine was saying, I never felt like this book was preaching “one true way” of doing anything. Overall a very enjoyable and informative read.
The second book was Birthing From Within by Pam England and Rob Horowitz. The Birthing From Within classes were recommended to me by both my doula and by a coworker, so I was really excited to read this book. It’s a book by a birthing coach/midwife/birth teacher. It’s very hippy and touchy-feely, which worked well for me as I’m very hippy with liberal ideas. It did go a little too far for me with the whole “how to do birth art” chapter, so I skipped over that part. The rest of it confirmed with fact and stories many of the thoughts that I’d already had, such as it’s easier to give birth upright and that drugs were introduced to make it easier for the doctors. Reading it made me more confident in my own choices, helped me to rearrange some of my own thinking about my pregnancy and birth, and also gave me some information about natural birth that I didn’t know before.
Overall I really enjoyed both books for different reasons. I’ve already purchased a copy of The Girlfriend’s Guide and I plan on buying a copy of Birthing From Within soon, because I want Darius to read some of it.
Over the weekend Darius and I had our first Centering appointment at the Birthing Center. Centering is a program that they have where a group of us who are all due in the same month have our prenatal check-ups at the same time and then we get to sit together with our partners and discuss issues, questions, etc with the whole thing being overseen by a midwife or two. Due to starting at little later with the Birthing Center, we’d missed the first session. This was okay though as there were 2 other couples that were also new to the group, and apparently there were a few people who’d either dropped or couldn’t make it that weekend.
When we got to the Birthing Center, I had to deal with one of my worst fears: being forgotten. Somehow, even though I had it on my schedule, they had forgotten to put me in the Centering group, so my chart and stuff wasn’t at the location where the Centering was happening (the BC has two locations). Luckily everyone at the Center was supper nice and accommodating. They just looked me up on the computer (hurray for modern technology) and took notes during my individual appointment that the midwife said she’d just add to my file. They also made sure that I was definitely on the list for the next session.
I was glad to have some one-on-one time with the midwife (i know that’s how this Centering thing works, but it’s still nice), so I could ask some personal questions and get some reassurances. Also, Darius got to hear the baby’s heartbeat live for the first time; 150bpm, a nice strong heartbeat that the midwife had no trouble finding this time.
I was worried that since we’d missed the first session, I’d feel left out, but the group was really nice and welcoming. We mostly talked about changes that we’re going through, exercises we can do, holiday travel, and dealing with family and with people who are negative toward our choice of using a Birthing Center. It was a really great experience for both Darius and I and I’m looking forward to our next session.
The only thing that did make me feel a little left out/behind is finding out that there is an online group for the May Moms that I’m not a part of yet. Apparently they are having lively discussion there and planning events and parties on it. However, I left our email addresses with the administrative person before we left the BC so w should be getting invites to it soon. If I don’t hear anything by tomorrow, I’ll call to remind them.
Lastly, when we were there we scheduled our 20 week (well, 18.5 week due to holidays) ultrasound. If Stree cooperates, we’ll find out the sex during that appointment. So excited!
Today Darius and I went to the Webcomics Rampage hosted by the Dragon’s Lair. On our way there we stopped at Target and Michael’s for onesies and fabric markers. At the Webcomics Rampage, I asked Randy Millholand, Joel Watson, Jeph Jacques, and Danielle Corsetto to each draw a onesie for me and Stree. This is what they came up with:
The pictures look a little yellow as I took them with my old digital camera. Mom’s getting me a new digital camera (one that takes video with sound!) as a birthday/holiday present.
Also, here’s a picture of me at 17 weeks:
As I mentioned in my last entry, my pants are getting tight so I went out and bought a pair of maternity jeans and two sweaters. I wore the jeans on Wednesday. They are super comfy, but I kept having to pull them up a bit. I guess I’m just not big enough yet to keep them up on their own. With the exception of my yoga pants and leggings, I’m pretty sure I have only one pair of pre-pregnancy pants that actually fits comfortably these days. Looks like I’m going to have to break down and get a belly band or two. I was kind of hoping to be able to skip straight from pre-pregnancy to maternity clothing. Oh well.
At the beginning of last week I wasn’t showing at all. I just looked like I had put on some weight around my middle.
For the past week or so, I’d been feeling round ligament pain, which mostly feels like cramping or tugging in my uterine area.
On Wednesday I was feeling it often, but trying to do my best to hide it while teaching a full day of class. By Thursday, I felt like I was showing just a little. My pants, many of which were starting to feel tight, were definitely feeling tight.
By Friday I was pretty sure that I was showing at least a little. I even had confirmation of this from a co-worker; and when I popped by the training class, someone even mentioned that while on Wednesday I didn’t look pregnant, on Friday I did. Yay!
Yesterday I went out shopping with TMR for maternity clothing. Got a pair of jeans and two sweaters from Old Navy. Tried stuff on at Motherhood Maternity as well, but nothing really worked well from there. By using the simulate-looking-really-pregnant-with-this-pillow thing that they have in their dressing rooms, I figured out that my current long sleeve shirts should work for a while longer. I figure that my regular pants are still mostly working for now (hurray for preferring low-cut pants), so I’ll get more as I need it.